A little about me and why I chose to be a Doula.
I am a mother of two beautiful girls. I couldn’t be more blessed. These two bring me so much not everyday.
Both of my babies were born VIA Cesarian. Lainey was our first and my waters broke on its own.
Contractions started about 45 m later not bad very tolerable but I knew it was time.
Ric and I did what most parents may do on their first baby which is what our OB told us to do.
Waters Broke….. GO to L&D right away right!!!
Well we loaded up and headed to the hospital. When we got there I was immediately hooked up to an IV and checked. I was at a 1! Which is more than I was before cause at all my pre natal checks I was 00000 and only 70% effaced.
Anyway after a lot 4 hours I was at a 3. I didn’t have any idea how to cope through these contractions so I would tense up and just beg Ric to help me. I ended up getting the epidural at a 3 and that’s where I stood for 4 hours. 4 hours later my doctor came in and checked me and I still hadn’t made any progress. I was considered “stalled” not knowing any other options I agreed to a C section. I cried and I didn’t want one but from the Sounds of it that’s what I needed so off to the OR we went and our beautiful Lainey was born 20 min later.
I was bummed I didn’t want a c section I was sad that I didn’t get the birth I had but was grateful for a safe baby.
After I had Lainey I started researching VBAC! I wanted one! I kept telling myself I can do that next time. Created dreams in my head that I would push a baby out.
I joined support groups once I was pregnant again and did a lot of research. Read about it all of the time.
Told my doctor I wanted to VBAC he said okay he’s done them before and he would let me try.
From the second he said try I had a bad feeling.
I was so upset for 4 weeks while I waited for my next visit. Felt like I needed to remind him again of my wishes. So I did and he said like I said I’ll let you try. Hmm right then I felt I needed to change docs but was scared to do so.
So 38 weeks 4 days my water breaks! I had totally pictured things different but I knew this was it! My husband was out of town so I called him and said catch a flight baby is coming. I didn’t want to run to the hospital this time. I didn’t want to go there at all I knew I would be on their clock the second I walked in. Contractions wouldn’t start. I bounced walked I even pumped I couldn’t get them to start. Ric got home about 10. Waters broke at 3 and contractions still hadn’t really started. But he was stressed about is not being at the hospital so off we went. I checked in and they did the same thing. IV and placed me in bed. I told them I wanted to VBAC and needed a VBAC friendly nurse. A lady walked in and said you can do this! I was so grateful she turned the lights off with me and said k had to be hooked up to the monitor ;-(
Compromising with that I stayed out of bed. I enjoyed it. Contractions started and I completely felt like I could do this.
She told me how she used to be a doula etc etc. My experience with her was amazing and it was right then I knew I 1 should have tired a doula like I contemplated on and then 2 that’s what I wanted to do!
I unfortunately ended in a RCS 18 hours after waters broke. It was a 100% different experience I watched the whole thing which was awesome. But I am left again even more educated on birth VBAC risks pros etc and want to do it again!
I will have a doula next time and I hope me being a doula myself will help me personally.
So about 6 months after Lyla was born I made the jump and attended my DONA workshop doula training. I’m so passionate about this line of work. It’s seriously such a beautiful thing. Labor, Birth babies Etta.
I have shadowed one birth and have a client due next week and I’m giddy excited about my next birth. This is a calling of mine and I’m so excited that I get to share it with women all over.
I wanted to thank you all for reading and for sharing my page and helping me get my name out there. I really am feeling so much love and support.
I also want to thank all of you who have e mailed me with questions. I love talking to all of you.
Much love and thanks !