Melinda’s Birth stories

I am so excited to be sharing my birth stories with you today. Each birth has a different story and helped lead be to become a birth doula serving families.

In Feb of 2010, I gave birth to our first baby boy. I was fearful about birth and knew that I absolutely wanted to have an epidural. To be honest I didn’t even want to feel one contraction! I went to the OB that my Mom and aunts went to and he even delivered me! I trusted in him and in the staff at the hospital that they would take care of us. We took a class at the hospital to prepare for birth. I made it to 40 weeks with flying colors with no sign of labor happening. I was sent for the “stress test or non-stress test” and my amniotic fluid was looking low. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes with this pregnancy, so with those two things together they told me they wanted to induce and sent me to L&D. I was actually excited because I was so done being pregnant, just like any woman at 40 weeks and 2 days right!? The pitocin was started and after I felt the first three contractions I was ready for my epidural. After getting the epidural I soon realized that it was not working on the left side of my uterus! I had no idea this was something that could happen! My legs were completely numb along with the right side of my belly but I could still feel everything on the left. They rolled me to my left side to try to get the meds to flow to that side of my body and even talked about taking it out to replace it again but we never did because I just kept thinking the baby would be born soon. I was in that position for most of the 18 hours of labor. Our baby was born vaginally after an episiotomy. There was a lack of communication of what was happening with him after birth. They took him to the NICU and my husband went with him while I was being stitched up. I felt worried, so worried about my baby and wondering what just happened to me! I wasn’t able to see him for quite some time because I couldn’t walk and he had to stay in the NICU. Eventually, my husband came back for me and wheeled me to NICU to see our baby. It seemed like a lifetime until I could walk again after the epidural. I had this scary feeling of wondering if I would ever be able to walk again! Once all the feeling came back I had an intense sore aching feeling on my left hip(due to laying on it the whole labor) that didn’t subside for months after birth. With this, my episiotomy, and trying to navigate how to keep this little person alive and happy, I wondered how and why people would ever want to go through this multiple times! My recovery took longer than normal but not having anything other experiences to compare it to I was sure I would never do this again! 

In 2013 I got pregnant again. With this baby, I knew I needed to explore some other options. Knowing that the epidural did not work for me the last time and the fact that I did not like how it made me feel, I started looking into childbirth classes that could help me through labor without the epidural. My husband and I took a Hypnobirthing class together and this made all the difference for both of us! He learned skills and techniques to help me during labor and also helped him to feel more a part of the birth and have a more involved role. He will tell you today that I drug him to the class but he is so glad that he did it! For this birth, I wanted to let labor start on its own and at 40 weeks and 5 days it did! After 4.5 hours our second baby boy was born unmedicated! The first thing I noticed about him was how alert and wide-eyed he was! I labored in a big birthing tub with him but had to get out for the delivery. My husband and sister (not yet a trained doula, but would be the next year) were with me during this birth and I was so grateful for their support. The birth high I felt after this baby was born is something I will never forget. I wanted to scream to the whole world “I just did that!!!” Everything about this experience was so different from the first. My recovery was such a night and day difference it was astonishing! With the birth class, additional research and education it made all the difference.

My last birth was full of emotion for me. I knew this would be my last baby. At this point In time I had completed the Birth doula training through DONA international and had finished the training and certification to teach Hypnobabies childbirth classes while I was 20 weeks pregnant. My husband and I chose to give birth in a birth center this time. As this was something new and different for us, it was not a decision that was taken lightly and had a lot of thought, conversation, education, and prayer that went into it. I found a CNM(certified nurse midwife) that ran her own birthing center and did extensive research and interviewing to choose a care provider. This birth was the fastest with no tearing at all! I credit that to the midwife who coached me through the last three contractions so I didn’t tear. That was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done physically in my life but was totally worth all the effort! It was such a great and amazing experience for all of us. Our midwife even made us breakfast that morning before we went home!

Tiny Blessings doula Melinda shares her birth stories

BIG NEWS!

Tiny Blessings doula Meagan Heaton is VERY excited to announce that our team is growing. Melinda Hudnall will be joining the Tiny Blessings doula services team. Melinda is trained and certified through DONA international, as well as through the Midwives College of Utah as an Advanced doula. She started her doula career the birth of her second son. To read her birth stories (click here). In addition to her incredible certifications Melinda is a Hypnobabies instructor here in Salt Lake City.

Melinda Hudnall Joins tiny Blessings doula services

Melinda is a momma of three handsome boys and has an incredibly supportive husband. She serves all over the Salt Lake Valley and lives in South Jordan. I am so excited and honored to have Melinda joining the Tiny Blessings Doula services team. To read more about Melindas very impressive bio head over to our contact us page or click HERE

Pelvic Floor PT

PELVIC FLOOR

Your pelvic floor is something that you will use your entire life. It is a group of muscled that support our pelvis. It protects our pelvic organs as well as supports a woman’s urethra, vaginal opening, and anus. As life goes on and we have children our pelvic floor is something that can lose its tone and possibly even prolapse. Because we use our pelvic floor on a daily basis it is super important that we take good care of it.

Salt lake doula talks about Pregnancy Pelvic floor health

HOW CAN WE STRENGTHEN OUR PELVIC FLOOR?

In prenatal visits with mommas a question of what can I do to strengthen my pelvic floor comes up often. Let me be the first to admit, I too have pelvic floor issues and have to be aware of that particular muscle on a daily basis. Something I wish I did during pregnancy that unfortunately wasn’t even on my mind was pelvic floor PT. As a doula and having my own doula I felt supported during the birth of my son (VBA2C) but in no way was prepared for the aftermath of how my pelvic floor would be feeling.

Let me introduce you to my good friend Valerie. She is with Well Being Pelvic Physical Therapy.

Although she typically doesn’t attend the birth of your baby with you she is excellent in helping you prepare your body/pelvic floor for the birth of your baby. She not only helps with the pelvic floor strength but she also can help with the following.

Posture:

Standing, Sitting, Working, Sleeping, lifting children and items, and nursing for the postpartum period.


Pain:

Pelvic floor symphysis, SI joints, Pain with Intercourse, Sciatica, Hips, Lower back, Scar pain, Swelling.


Labor and Delivery:

Pelvic floor and abdominal wall control, good labor positioning, good birthing positions, perineal care.


Exercise: 

What is safe, what to continue and discontinue, Individual program for you and your needs.


Incontinence:

Leakage during pregnancy and postpartum- it is NEVER okay or normal. Is it your water?


Education: 

Diastasis recti – prevention and treatment, birth preparation, prep for delivery, pain management, recourse


When to start and where to go? 

Starting early is so important. Like I mentioned above I really didn’t even think about my pelvic floor health during pregnancy. BUT now that I know more about it I suggest everyone goes in and has a consultation with a pelvic floor PT soon after discovering you’re pregnant especially if you have experienced any trauma to your pelvic floor area in previous births, experiencing pain/discomfort, would like to help your diastasis recti, looking for great pregnancy/postpartum support etc. Also it is important to know that seeing a pelvic floor PT is also super important and beneficial in the postpartum and pre pregnancy periods as well. Valerie is incredible and can help you only feel even more supported along the way. She is there for you and wants to help your experience be comfortable. To find out more about what to expect and learn answers to common questions visit her website here

Having both a Pelvic PT and a doula on your birth team is going to enhance your chances of reaching goals and having a positive experience. If you’re looking for someone to help you with the things listed above give Val a call today. She is located in Murray Utah .1-801-904-3502 Open Mon-Thur 9-4, Fri by appointment

 

Mom guilt

Mom Guilt….. Have you ever felt it? How does it creep in? 

Mom guilt is real. It effects so many if not all moms out there and it sucks. Im going to be real honest and pretty vulnerable here for a moment. I suffer from mom guilt. Almost 7 years ago I became a mom. That day I met my baby girl my entire world changed for the better. Everything was wonderful my perfect little girl would look up at me and smile and there were days I felt like a queen. Then MOM GUILT! I will never forget the very day that I first felt it. My daughter was 5 days old. I had just returned home from the hospital and still recovering from my cesarean section. She was hungry and I was doing everything to feed her and she just wouldn’t latch or calm down long enough to get enough milk. I could feel my shoulders creeping up and the tears coming, while at the same time anger flooded over me. WHY!!! WHY won’t you calm down I thought! I sat her down a little forcefully and walked away. Instantly my mom guilt kicked in! I couldn’t believe it! How did I just set my baby on the floor and leave walk away. She’s hungry… She doesn’t know how to communicate other than crying… How dare I? I have told myself I am a terrible mom so many times, ie: When I went back to work, Stopped Breastfeeding, had another baby and didn’t give the other kids as much attention, my son broke his leg cause I let him step off to steep of a step, when I am gone for long periods of time etc etc. The list could go on forever! There are many ways that mom guilt can creep into our lives.

Tiny Blessings doula's son breaks leg

 

The following are moments we may tend to feel mom guilt more.

 

  • Tiredness
  • Anxiety and or Depression
  • Overworking
  • The feeling of having to be “perfect” (there is no such thing)
  • Social Media and more

How do we overcome mom guilt?

Mom guilt looks different for everyone. In today’s world there is so much pressure in our society, expectations of what other moms are doing and what is the best way to be a mom. From the very beginning the pressure is there on what is the best thing to do. Should I have an unmedicated birth or a medicated birth, Should I breastfeed or not, should I go back to work or be a stay at home mom, should I hire a nanny or take my child to daycare. YOU NAME IT! We ask ourselves these questions all the time and its silly. THERE IS NO FAILING!!!! Really though there isin’t! Momma’s you’re doing a great job. Please believe it. There is no book out there that can tell us exactly how each child is going to be and how we as parents should be. According to Postpartumdepression.org 70-80% of mommas experience the “Baby Blues” and a recent study 1 in 7 women can expect to experience postpartum depression in the first year of pregnancy. Postpartum depression can stem from mom guilt. And as mentioned in a few blogs back even Antepartum depression can happen.

So how do we overcome this feeling of mom guilt? 

  • Change our thoughts- we do not have to compete with Mary Jane and Sally Jo. Be the best mom you can be and don’t worry and focus so much on what everyone else is doing.
  • Accept- Accept the way you parent. Chances are you’re amazing and you just need to accept it.
  • Let the guilt go- There are so many things in life that we can feel guilty for. We need to let them go. Do your best and learn from what things you wan’t to keep and things you want to change and don’t let the guilt take over.
  • Know your children love you- Most of the time we may do something or say something that we regret. Our children know we are not perfect- they love YOU more than you know!
  • Consider what you contribute- This applies to all mommas. I have heard oh so many times working moms bashing stay at home moms and vice versa. No matter your role in the home or workplace recognize what you contribute to your family and give yourself a pat on the back.

You’re AMAZING!

What I hope you leave with today is the knowledge that momma…. You’re amazing. We have to let the fear, shame, guilt, and doubt go. I saw this video one day and it really hit me hard. I bawled while watching and then watched it again and bawled even more. Please know you’re amazing mommas. Keep rocking parenthood and know you’re not alone and there are others that are feeling that mom guilt too. Lets end the mom guilt.

XOXO- Meagan

Source: Postpartum Depression  

Gender Reveal!

How did you find out the gender of your baby?

Talking about Gender Reveal!? Did you do a gender reveal party? If so how did you do it? I love seeing all the fun ideas of how families learn the gender of their babies. Today I want to share a new and very fun way that I learned. Its MAGIC! Yup you read it correctly. Find out your gender via magic. Doug Roy has come up with a fun exciting way to tell families what they are having through magic. When he told me this idea I thought it would fun to share with the world.

A little more about who’s behind all the magic:

Meet Doug Roy –  The Gender Reveal Magician

Magician Doug Roy began his journey into magic at the young age of nine, when he first saw a magician perform in-person, and has been inspired by old-time magic greats  Harry Houdini and Harry Blackstone, and current greats David Blaine and David Copperfield. His magic is a fun mix of typical magic as well as mentalism, and his style is strong… personable… and often includes a touch of humor.  Doug is also a member of the International Brotherhood of Magicians, and has been performing professionally for over 13 years. 

Earlier this summer Doug discovered that Gender Reveal Parties were becoming extremely popular, but that no magician in the U.S. provided a show solely dedicated to that theme!  This surprised him, since the entire process of pregnancy and childbirth is so amazing and “magical”!  With this newly discovered info he decided to get to work and develop a show designed around the Gender Reveal theme… and to become  known as “The Gender Reveal Magician”!   

So how does it work?

Doug’s 1-hour Gender Reveal Magic Show is totally unique and customizable!  It can include any combination of stand-up magic (performed in front of the entire group), strolling magic (close-up magic while people are mingling with each other), and a hands-on magic class for children ages 5-10. Yes, Doug’s show has something for anyone

Doug’s show also allows everyone to participate! This element is very important when it comes to the siblings, who sometimes can feel a bit left out of the typical reveal party. During Doug’s Gender Reveal Magic Show the siblings and other family members actively participate in the show, and thus become an important part of it!

Lastly… but not ‘leastly’, Doug’s Gender Reveal Magic Show is designed in a way that reveals the gender through magic!  In typical gender reveal methods… you know, for example, that the cake IS going to be either pink or blue inside! Or… the balloons WILL have either pink or blue confetti inside!  Not much surprise here… other than the actual “knowing”!

In Doug’s show… no one has ANY idea how the gender will be revealed!!  In other words… it’s wonder, anticipation, and excitement… on steroids!!

THAT is the type of magic that every Gender Reveal Party deserves!! :)))

So if you’re looking for unique, and highly entertaining alternative to the typical balloon or cake-type reveal parties, Doug’s Gender Reveal Magic Show is a superb choice!

To contact Doug and book your party today- check out his website  HERE

Maternal Massage

Benefits of a prenatal massage: 

A massage during pregnancy can be so wonderful. If you have ever had one you probably know how amazing you feel after right? AND if you have had one during pregnancy I’m sure you remember how heavenly it was. So why get a massage during pregnancy? There are many benefits before, during and even after pregnancy.

  • Reduces stress
  • Help increases blood circulation and reduce swelling
  • May reduce or even take away aches and pains
  • May improve sleep
  • May even help soften the joints and improve SPD
  • Help encourage healing after baby
  • AND according to the AMA studies are showing it can even help with Postpartum depressionMaternity photo from Tiny blessings doula client jackie finchPhoto cred Yellow Finch Photography

So where can you get a great Prenatal or Postnatal massage?

SLC mommas!!!! Look no further. I have got to tell you about Maternal Massage! I was massaged by Elaine Lewis, and let me just say SHES AMAZING!!!! Not only was the environment at Maternal Massage so calm and warm the staff was incredible. I would highly suggest massages during pregnancy and the postpartum stages.

Maternal Massage is a clinic focused on and centered around women. With specialty training and equipment they focus on the changing needs of a woman’s body during and after pregnancy. With orthopedic supports they are able to safely perform prenatal massages throughout all phases of pregnancy. (they even have special pillows for pregnant bellies) Their therapists have extra training in prenatal, postpartum and even labor stimulation massage. They even offer couples massage.

Maternal Massage partners with Tiny Blessings doula

To learn more about their services or to book online, Click HERE to call and schedule your visit today.

Antepartum depression

I am SO excited to share this post with you today. Have you heard of the blog “A Good Mom” If you haven’t you should head over there and give it a read. Her name is Elise and when I found her blog i was captivated by her honesty, tips, view points and just over all simplicity. Something that Elise talks about on her blog is overcoming anxiety’s and depression. I contacted her to see if she would be willing to write a guest blog talking about antepartum depression and what she has done to get through those really hard times. Working in the birth world I feel like this specific need is often lost in the hype and excitement of having a new baby and everything should be super happy and nothing but. However Its not sometimes all happy and joyous. Join Elise on her incredible blog post as she shares her incredible story and the things she’s done to help her through this next pregnancy.

 If you’re experiencing antepartum depression it is OKAY. To seek for help click Here.<<<<

Elise Shares………

This has been one of my deepest, darkest secrets that I have been keeping to myself for several years now.

I am terrified to be sharing this with the universe, but I’m writing this because I feel that it needs to be said, and I need to help bring more awareness to antepartum depression.

A good mom blog shares on tiny blessings doula services blog about depression

When I found out that I was pregnant with my first, it was as beautiful as I ever imagined it would be.

I cried happy tears. I fell to my knees and thanked God. I was glowing for days!

Over time, my emotional state began to deteriorate.

Any time that I would make mention of the things that I was experiencing, I would hear things like “That’s normal.” “Pregnancy is hard for everyone.” “You’ll get through it.”

I never truly confided in anyone, not even my OBGYN at the time, about the intimate details of my emotional state for two reasons.

1. I was very embarrassed. And to be completely honest, I still am…

2. I downplayed it hard core thinking that it was just a normal part of pregnancy.

I WAS DEAD WRONG!

I was so physically sick that I lost 20 pounds over a period of 2 months. Keep in mind that I was already very thin and in shape.

That should tell you just how sick I was.

I was too sick to eat.

Most women eat, and then throw up. I was throwing up before I could get the fork to my mouth.

That’s not normal either.

My physical state was at it’s absolute worst.

Just to be brief- I was blacking out and passing out frequently, among other unpleasant things…

I just remember begging and pleading with God to spare my child!

I just wanted her to live!

Now I know that it is nothing short of a miracle that my fetus survived when I myself was hanging by a thread. Literally.

Now for a little science lesson of the day- your physical state is directly linked to your emotional state.

When you are suffering physically, you will also suffer emotionally.

But it was more than that for me.

I already suffered from depression prior to my pregnancy.

So to take my current (untreated) depression, and couple that with physically dying- it was a very ugly combination.

As much as I don’t want to go into the details of my emotional state at the time of my first pregnancy, I will.

I was suffering emotional breakdowns on just about a daily basis.

I would curl up in little corners, or in the shower, or on the floor and just felt like my spirit was perishing.

I had thoughts of harming myself

I had thoughts of suicide and death

My marriage was suffering gravely

I felt guilty. Oh so guilty for feeling the way that I did when I had so many friends and family members struggling with infertility. I thought that I should just be happy and grateful to be able to be pregnant!

I felt guilty that I hated myself and had such violent thoughts towards myself.

I felt that I wasn’t worthy of my child and that she deserved a better, stronger woman to carry her to birth.

I feared that my emotional state would never improve and that I would utterly fail as a mother.

The amount of hopelessness and worthlessness that I felt was overwhelming. And “overwhelming” is an absolute understatement.

I was one of the unfortunate women that was physically ill until I reached my 8th month of pregnancy.

Which means that I was suffering emotionally for those 8 months!

Once I started feeling better physically, I was finally able to follow a normal diet again.

I finally got to experience what a “normal pregnancy” would feel like.

For the last 2 months.

It’s fine.

That was when my emotional state improved DRAMATICALLY!

Like I said, there’s a direct correlation between the physical and mental state.

And I am very happy to report that my postpartum depression only lasted a week. ONE WEEK, PEOPLE!

And just like that, I was back to being me again!

So if you are feeling like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, there is.

Here’s what I learned from this incredibly dark, lonely, and terrifying time of my life:

1. I can clearly see that I was not thinking straight. I should have consulted with my doctor about every grueling detail of my emotional state. Without reservations.

2. What I went through was NOT normal, and listening to other people say that it was- was the STUPIDEST thing that I have EVERRRR done to myself.

3. I will never put myself, or my unborn child at risk like that again. This will never be repeated. And I am happy to say that with this current pregnancy (I am 7 months pregnant currently), I was prepared. My doctor and I have been proactive about treating my sickness, and nipped the physical and emotional sickness in the bud before it ever even got close to getting out of hand! Hallelujah!

4. I don’t care about anybody else’s opinion. I will do WHATEVER it takes to keep myself healthy, and therefore my child healthy (and ALIVE). Even if that means taking medication while pregnant. Yep. I said it. And if you are judging me for that, then count yourself blessed that you are not one of 20% of other women that experience what I did during pregnancy.

5. What I went through, and what you may be going through is very real. It is serious. It is not in your head. It is not just part of pregnancy. It needs to be treated immediately, and if your current doctor is not validating you, then you need to find a new doctor who will.

6. I wish that I would have educated myself at the time, on the resources that were available to me! For instance- Doula Services!!!! Which is basically a source of emotional support- which would have been incredibly beneficial to me during such a fragile time.

Some women’s bodies handle pregnancy like a boss.

Other women’s bodies do not.

It is not my fault that my body hates being pregnant.

It is not in my control.

If you are one of those women too, then accept that you are not at fault and rid yourself of your guilt immediately.

Everyone reacts to pregnancy differently.

And in many, many cases, each woman’s body reacts differently to each pregnancy that she has!

Isn’t that awesome?

For a person like me with severe anxiety to have to deal with that much unpredictability is just great. (Not!)

Take heart.

There are resources out there for you.

If you are struggling with antepartum depression, or even postpartum depression-

Seek help IMMEDIATELY!!!

You are NOT weak!

You are NOT failing!

You are NOT doing anything wrong!

Your body is making the shots, and you are suffering the consequences.

Seek advice from a medical professional, or emotional support from another source such as a Doula.

Do NOT be afraid to try different things…even if it’s medication.

Especially if it means saving your life, your unborn child’s life, and/or your marriage.

Priorities.

For your sake, and your child’s sake, and your marriages sake, and for all of the sakes!

Take action.

And remember…This too shall pass.

You WILL make it through this.

YOU GOT THIS, MAMA!!!Meagan Heaton doula shares guest blog about antepartum depression

How to choose the sex of your baby Shettles Method…. Boy

HOW TO CHOOSE THE SEX OF YOUR BABY?

Something many people do not know about my little Webster (my VBA2C baby) is when we were trying to conceive him we did some “crazy” things during the process. My first two children were girls and we LOVED them of course but we really hoped for a little boy the next time around. I was told about the Shettles method. This method was how to try and get a certain sex. I rolled my eyes because I figured YA RIGHT, there is no way you can choose the sex of your baby. RIGHT??? Somehow I was still interested. (you can find it on amazon click the image below)

Doula tells about things she did to get a boyAt the time we were not quite ready to start trying for our third baby so I figured Id dig a little and see what information I could get on it. A friend of mine gave me the book Titled “How to choose the sex of your baby” She said that it was VERY important for me to read the entire thing not just the boy section. She did it with her kiddos and swore by it. Sooooo I started reading along. A lot of the information was very interesting to me. I started doing the things it said like tracking ovulation, temping, checking CM (cervical Mucus), and eating different. After a few months of doing this my husband said he was ready to start trying. I told my husband about the book and what I was learning. We knew that the third baby would possibly be our last child so I asked him what he thought about us trying the things in the book. He said sure, I suppose we can why not. I told my husband what I was doing and asked him to do a few things too.

“Let me tell you all this conception was anything but romantic ha ha”

THINGS WE DID TO GET A BOY!

HIM:  I told him he needed to start by cooling things down: My husband LOVES hot showers, unfortunately for him I needed him to take luke warm showers so his guys were not “overheated”. Scrotal temperature is something that is discussed in the book. A good scrotal temperature is one that is just less than the bodies temp, so keeping loose fitting unders, not sitting in a hot tub or taking hot showers, and not overheating while he worked out were the instructions I gave him. He also needed to drink caffeine just before we had sex. Who doens’t love a good excuse to drink Caffeine? Well, this is another thing that men can do before sex. He doesn’t drink coffee so I had him drink a nice cool Mountain Dew about 15 minutes before we had sex.

ME: I mentioned above a little about what I was doing however let me get into deeper detail for you. I talked about checking my CM. If you haven’t seen or heard of the term CM that means Cervical Mucus. This is something we make all month long and depending on how our CM texture is is how fertile we are. What you are looking for when you ovulate is “egg white” CM. This literally means just like it sounds it should look like egg whites clear and super stretchy. When having a girl your CM will look different because you want to catch things a little earlier than you would with a boy. In addition to checking CM I also took my temp every morning. I chose to take it vaginally, some do orally I don’t think there is a right or wrong way to temp as long as you’re temping every morning before getting out of bed and really trying to temp around the same day everyday. You may have heard about a Basil thermometer. I didn’t use a one but I did get a nicer one that read fast and accurately. Eating was a large thing for me as the book talked about keeping my Alkaline levels down. Staying away from Dairy, and focussing on raw fresh fruits and veggies. One of my favorite snacks was bananas with almonds sticking out of them. I also drank Alkaline water.

WHEN WE FOUND OUT WHAT WE WERE HAVING…. GIRL OR BOY???Doula In salt lake city tells how she got her boy

At 14 weeks I went into my doctors and begged for him to show me baby so we could see if we knew the sex because we were telling our parents on Christmas day and I wanted to give them an ultrasound with a bow on the head or a bow tie. He agreed and said it may be hard but we could see. When we were looking it appeared the baby was a girl. I was so excited but also super bummed. We told our family on Christmas day and we told my friend who gave us the book that we tried everything and we found out we were having a GIRL. She was ADAMANT that we didn’t do it correctly. I told her that we did everything to a T. She still swore to me that I must had missed something. Fast forward 6 weeks at our 20 week ultrasound. We walked in and started the visit. She did as most techs do starts at the head and moves down as they measure and check everything. I kept telling my husband AHHH look how cute she is, she’s a wiggler, etc etc. The tech stopped and looked at us??? She said Im so sorry but why do you keep calling this baby a girl? I said oh we found out a little early that she was a girl and told her what we chose to name her. She looked at us with a very strange look and said WELLLLLLL, this is a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IT COULDN’T BE!!!!!!

She moved the arrow down and made it into a finger and pointed to what was MOST DEFINETLY     not a girl. I was shocked, my husband was shocked we couldn’t believe our eyes or ears. We walked out thinking WOW it worked. It actually worked!!!! When I told my friend she said she was wanting to have their last and really wanted to try for a girl. At this point I am a firm believer that the things I did had to of helped me right???? I told her all about the book and she started all the things to try for a girl. Guess what she got a girl. She has blogged about her story as well you can find that HERE. Our sweet boy just turned 2 and we just can’t get enough of him. If you would like to read more about this method check out the book

HOW TO CHOOSE THE SEX OF YOUR BABY” by Landrum Shettles and David Rorvik. 

Utah VBAC Link- Tiny Blessings Partners up

VBAC doula in salt lake city meagan heaton teams up with utah vbac linkI am super excited to announce that I will be teaming up with the wonderful Julie Francom in a company called Utah VBAC Link. Together we are trained doulas who can’t wait to help couples during their VBAC journey’s and educate on Cesarean prevention. We will be providing evidence based information and helping couples have educated conversations with their providers and support teams. I am honored that Julie has asked me to partner up with her. We wan’t The Utah VBAC Link to be a safe place for you to ask questions, share your stories, and find great resources during your birth experience. Both Julie and I have had Cesarean Sections and have had VBAC’s. While pregnant with the ending goal of a vaginal birth we both found ourselves looking for resources and facts that we could get for ourselves. Although there is most definitely information out there we always seemed to want more. Coming fall we plan to bring a whole new resource to our mommas here in Utah and look forward to educating couples all over the Utah Valley.

Tiny Blessings will still be offering doula services to all mommas. 

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Three C-Sections

My name is Sarah, I am twenty seven years old, a mom to three girls and i’ve had three c-sections!! my husband and i got married in 2012 and didn’t wait very long to get our family started! i did very little research and before we knew it we were staring at a positive pregnancy test! we were ecstatic!!! i had a pretty rough pregnancy, and was throwing up from the very beginning until about 25 weeks. as this was my first baby, i did some light reading but honestly not much, i never went to any birth classes and didn’t really have a “birth plan”. all that mattered was that momma and baby were safe in the end! at 36 weeks i had an ultra sound to check the position of my baby and found out that she was breech and that my amniotic fluids were  low! I was told to take it easy for a week and would check my fluid levels again at my next appointment! a week passed and at my 37 week appointment my fluid levels had dropped even more and was sent for a more detailed ultrasound to determine whether or not baby was coming that day or not and a stress test to check on baby! my amniotic fluid levels were so low— there was basically nothing in there and because baby was breech there was no way to turn her to be induced so i was sent in for an “emergency c-section” that day and honestly, i wasn’t disappointed at all. like i said, i never had a birth plan so i didn’t feel heart broken for it not going as we had planned! the surgery went well and i was surprisingly very impressed with how it all went! we were so happy to have our baby girl here! i always wanted my babies super close in age so we got pregnant again 12 months later! i was interested in doing a v-bac but wasn’t certain so i did some research and talked with my doctor but in the end my husband and i decided to go with a return cesearen! my second procedure went fine but not as smoothly! i was very nauseous and threw up during the surgery which was so miserable. And all i could think about was when it would be over! baby number two ended up in the nicu for a few hours for a few minor complications! we ended up getting pregnant with baby number 3 in november of 2017 and just like my other pregnancies it was a very difficult pregnancy! my OB doesn’t allow a v-bac after two c-sections so that wasn’t even an option but both my husband and I were okay with it… we were overall very happy with our first two births! because of how my second procedure went i made sure to go into my third c-section with lots of positivity and made sure to get some nausea medication as soon as we were in the OR, my husband and i listened to music during the procedure and talked to the doctors about vehicle wraps my husband had recently finished and other random topics. my third c-section went SO smoothly and i was SO happy with the outcome! with my third cesarean i was able to do skin to skin with my baby while they were stitching me up unlike my other two c-sections which made my experience that much better! i loved my c-sections and i wouldn’t have changed how my birth stories turned out!! i love my “battle wound” and that it shows all the amazing things my body went through to bring my three beautiful daughters here!Doula i